Finding friends that make you truly happy is difficult. You should be able to appreciate the fact that they make you happy but should also be able to be happy by yourself, encouraging independent happiness so that it doesn’t put pressure on the relationship, causing potential issues in the future.
When things start to go your way, its easy to run away with your feelings (whether positive or negative). A relationship or friendship should be balanced and reassuring but not take centre-stage in your decisions. It should be there as a sense of security but never rule the decisions you make.
Friends can be found everywhere, school, work, University and more. They can all have such a big impact on decisions we make that can shape the people we perceive ourselves to be. This is why it’s important to have different friends from different groups. All friends should be supportive and shouldn’t judge decisions you make, but other personality traits can differ between different friendships.
Friends who are like you are great at showing yourself the kind of person that you can be. Allowing yourself to have similarities with someone and not clashing is difficult, but definitely achievable. You’ll be interested in what they’re doing because it interests you too.
A mix of fun friends who are different to you can be so healthy. It provides a balance of opinions and offers alternative solutions to everyday problem solving. This range of perspective can build a bigger picture and can help you discover new things you love.
A friend that goes way back can help you see how far you’ve come. The adventures and memories you’ve shared can motivate you to keep going and can prove a healthy relationship as its been alongside you for years. People and their relationships often change over time, but this isn’t always a problem. It shows maturity and an ability to adapt to changes someones making, whether you agree or not. You’ll be there for them and they are there for you, revealing a huge sense of reliability and self worth within you both.
Friendships in family are some of the greatest treasures. They have been with you from the start and know you sometimes the same as you know yourself. Family are the start of everything I do, they are the reason i’m here and I want to make them proud. They drive me to make my life worthy and something to be proud of. Their care for me is reflected straight back to them. I am so grateful for them, for shaping me into the person I am and for giving me the tools to discover what I would like to achieve and discover in life and love.
Being you for you and your friends. Surround yourself with people who allow you to be the best version of yourself.
- Fun
- Honest
- Funny
- Silly
- Trustworthy
- Balanced
These are the values of a friend that I personally find express myself most truly. They allow me to be myself with the security of balanced love surrounding the friendship.
Louise Trigg 